Saturday, March 24, 2012

Just Like Riding a Bike?



Mkay, so the current situation is that it’s been years since I've dated anyone. I had been in back to back long-term relationships for over a decade before say, mid 2010. After the last one, I just wanted to stop and take stock of where I was and what I’ve been doing. I felt that this was the appropriate action, however I also found myself having to reconcile it with the cultural pressures of being an unwed woman over twenty-five. When you’re in your late twenties and still have no ring on your finger or any prospects, even your parents start looking you up and down like you’re defective.



"You still don't have a husband??
Are you even really looking?"

Being me, I said, “to hell with all of that,” and completely shifted my focus away from dating. I was thinking, “My parents already have grandkids. They’ll just have to wait for the son-in-law."  I'm good with taking the time to find the right person. I don’t want to be with someone just for the sake of being with someone. So I’ve taken some time, renewed my studies, created a new plan for my life, and moved on in various ways. But lately, as it’s been a good hot minute since I’ve even really looked at man sideways, I have to say that I’ve started to become a lil’ more than desirous of male companionship.  When I found myself ogling Men's Health Magazine like it was Playgirl, I realized it was time to get back out there.


My doctor said to take two of these
and call her in the late afternoon.

Thus, I'm re-entering the dating arena. I can wait til I meet someone worthwhile, but I figured I’d better at least go about seeking a partner in a way that opens me up to as many options as possible.  This means doing things like actually making time to go out even though I’m crazy busy, and reevaluating my standards, wants, and needs. I’ve also decided try online dating.  Now, I‘ve totally been warned that the online dating world is filled with locos, liars, and losers who are married and/or live with their mommas.  Still, I figured that there have to be some people out there like me who just want to be open to possibilities.  So this is the starting point. I’ll keep you posted. 

Xoxo,
Aya

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