Peace, All. It was pointed out by a reader that I hadn’t gone into much detail about the guys or the dates related to my online advertisement situation when I posted last. The reason for that is that there have been no dates as of yet. I’m a 5'3" single woman. Even "packing heat" – and I neither confirm nor deny that I do – I still need to be careful of where I go alone, particularly to meet someone I don’t know. Also, It should be noted that I have only been working with my current combination of sites, as well as the particular method of interaction with the sites that I’m using, for about month. Prior to this time, I was doing more lurking than interacting. But unless you're intent on posting a pic of yourself with your ass hanging out and/or fit one of the descriptions I alluded to previously, I've found that unlike irl, it's unreasonable to expect loads of men (you would wish to be bothered with) to approach you online. As such, the going has been slow, but I’ve managed to come across three guys of interest thus far. I’m not going to use any names or give specific information about anyone I discuss, nor am I going to mention the names of the sites. That information has been withheld to protect the innocent, namely me. I'm channeling Aaron McGruder circa 2005, here: "Seriously. I really don't want any of you n*ggas running up on me at the club. I don't have no crew, and ... I know how ya'll n*ggas do." And with that, let me introduce you all to the first round of draft picks (and what you may imagine they look like)!!
The first round of Contenders are:
Asian #3. There may be readers among you who are not aware of my affinity for various ethnicities of Asian men. Guys from the UAE? Love ya. Nepalese men? Beautiful. To my Vietnamese hotties – xoxo. That being said, I sought out and was receptive to approaches by Asian men from the outset of my online dating adventures. Which brings us to Asian #3 - wait, number three you ask? Please allow me to elaborate:
The first Asian candidate I seriously considered was American-born Chinese, mid 30’s. He was seriously gorgeous - like Taeyang’s older brother gorgeous, well educated, well read, family oriented, and well employed. However, he seemed rather ill-socialized. After we had begun our correspondence, he actually told me off before we could make any real headway. I’m still not sure what I did to provoke such a response, but meh, “on to da next one,” said Jigga Man. Asian guy numero dos, an American-raised South Korean in his late twenties, was very adorable and flirty, funny, and a seemingly great candidate for some casual dates if nothing else. This line of reasoning ended when he told me he’d like to ejaculate on my feet. Yeah.
This brings us to Asian3, as he shall be so named henceforward. He’s a cute, Chinese PhD student employed in his field, very intelligent and inquisitive, fluent in English, and quite tall which is a nice plus (though not a requirement) for any male suitor of mine. We’ve been conversing, and he shows all the signs of a normal, well-adjusted human being.
The Brother – Though I have been seeking to explore more diverse dating interests, there is certainly something to be said for Black dating. You have a shared culture and are somewhat more likely to share social views; the awkwardness that can occur when enjoying Black media and entertainment with a member of another race isn’t present (if you’re Black and you’ve ever tried to listen to Biggie or watch the Boondocks with someone non-Black, you’ll have my back on this); no explanation of slang is necessary, nor is any discussion about Black female hair care; etc. Little things like this are not hugely important but when taken as a whole can have a noticeable impact, though not necessarily for good or ill, on a relationship over time. On the other hand, Black men and women can know each other too well, and that familiarity in part can cause us to play out the same relationship patterns over and over again. So far, I have to say the Brothers (and I'm speaking of various ethnicities here) have been coming correct with theirs. Certainly there are Black men who will wish to approach you with pictures of themselves in an A-shirt standing in the bathroom mirror, but these people are easily ignored. The Brother I’m interested in is African-American, handsome, about 40, very well employed, and trendy in an age appropriate manner. We have similar tastes in many things, so we’ll see how it goes.
|I still love you, Junito!|
The Puertorriqueño – This is actually the first Hispanic male to approach me, though I have approached a few unsuccessfully. First I will say that though he is very light and probably would be considered White in most parts of the country, he acknowledged his mixed heritage in his profile, which was actually quite a turn on. Race in places that are still basically colonies is an intriguing set of situations that differs thoroughly from one area to the next. This is especially true for Puerto Rico which is both part of and not part of the US and, so being, must reconcile the miscegenation culture of its own distinct colonial past with the very differing miscegenation culture and history of the Mainland. To avoid a number of side rants, I’ll end that discussion here. Suffice it to say that embracing one’s whole self is a philosophy of mine, and I find it very sexy in a male. As a matter of fact, our life philosophies and temperaments seem quite similar, and I take this as a good indicator of our compatibility. I’ve always found Boricuas handsome, though I’m open the entire Hispanic Diaspora. This particular guy is early 30’s, fluent in English, family oriented, employed at a decent level, and free spirited.
With these three guys in mind, I intend to work up to the situation of meeting in public. I let you all know what happens.